wear a mask. If you want to be honest then you have to live a lie."
How many times have I heard some of the cleverest women I know being called “feminist bitches” simply because they don’t conform to the “nice” girl image? Or, simply because they ask difficult questions and expect serious answers.
…there’s another way to be “nice”, and it’s one that doesn’t infantilise women. It’s a niceness I try to enact in my daily life. It’s having decency, empathy, sympathy and a desire to connect with people without losing your interrogative spirit. The fact is, being “nice” shouldn’t have a gender, it should be a general human characteristic that implies compassion and integrity. It should not be co-opted into a rather insulting idea of femininity."
— Banksy (Wall and Piece)